The Ideal Client

A Gentleman’s Guide To Escorts

Being the ideal escort client requires a little knowledge, some effort, and a lot of respect. This is not a complete list of exactly what you should and shouldn’t do when seeking out a companion, because not every companion has the exact same rules and expectations. But it is a good foundation for basic rules and etiquette that the majority of companions would agree on.

While following this guide can’t guarantee that your experience will be trouble-free, it will definitely help you avoid some of the hurdles and mistakes that many clients make.

Read Her Website

I’m assuming that the escort you intend to see has a website. And if she went through the trouble of putting up a website, then that means she’s serious about her business and wants you to read the website. This is one of the most common mistakes that potential clients make, assuming that if you’ve read one lady’s website, then you have a good idea of what’s on another lady’s website. This is definitely not the case. We all run our businesses a little differently.

Unnecessary questions and so much disappointment and misunderstanding can be avoided if you just take the time to read a companion’s website before contacting her. Read the whole site, not just skim the pages looking for some pics and maybe prices, and then a contact form. Many companions have information on their site that is intended to not only give you a general idea of who they are, but whether or not they would be a good fit for you and vice versa.

Do yourself a favor and Read Her Website, all of it. She will thank you for it. Seriously, she will literally thank you for it.

Communication

Good communication is a vital part of any relationship, whether it be business or personal. Always be respectful when contacting an escort. There are a few guidelines that apply to all forms of communication:

✅ Be consistent and timely in your responses.
✅ Consistent communication, NOT Constant communication.
✅ Be sure you’ve read her website so you don’t have to ask unnecessary questions.
✅ Let your companion know about any concerns or questions you have if you aren’t sure, and be mindful that we all have our own way of doing things.
❌ Don’t ask about “services” she provides.
❌ Don’t talk about anything sexual.
❌ Don’t send her long-drawn-out messages—they’re difficult to respond to.

Also, have a date in mind when contacting her for an appointment. You don’t always have to have an exact date when initially contacting her, but contacting her just to tell her you’d like to see her some day is really a waste of her time. The only exception to this is if you want to get pre-screened for a future date.

Plan Ahead

This is an extension of the “Communication” rule, and it’s an often overlooked aspect of the booking process that can make or break your date. Proper planning can mean the difference between a uniqe, mind-blowing experience that you can’t wait to relive, or a complete failure that you will want to quickly forget.

✅ If you see a companion is traveling to your city and you think it’s possible you will want to meet her during this time, DO NOT wait until the day of or the day(s) right before she’s supposed to be there to inquire about a date. Many times, ladies have to put out feelers for cities when they are traveling to make sure there is enough interest to make the trip happen. Having things planned out well in advance can mean saving considerable money on the costs associated with traveling. The “I was waiting to book until you were here” mentality is probably the #1 reason ladies end up canceling trips. Just let her know your availability and see how things work out.

✅ If your dates/times are flexible, let your companion know. She might be able to offer something that is more beneficial to you and her. Plans can sometimes change, and it’s better to be prepared and have alternatives to suggest should things change for either of you.

✅ If you are booking a dinner date or longer, it’s a good idea to have some restaurants or other public venues picked out, or even a general location you might prefer to find activities can help a great deal. You can still be spontaneous and prepared without having to plan every moment you are together.

Don’t Haggle

If her rates are not what you’re looking for or if you can’t afford them, then move on and find someone else. While it’s not uncommon for companions to offer discounted rates to long-time, regular clients, many ladies find it insulting when you try to haggle with them about their rates or expect “off the clock” time with them. While you might ask and she might even agree to discounted rates, there’s a good chance she will be turned off by the notion that you don’t think she’s worth what her rates are stated to be. How would you react if someone were to demand you take a pay cut for the service you provide? Insulting, right? Yes, it is.

If you are a consistent regular and you get along well, she might offer a discount or special rate just for you. And that’s the key part—SHE might be the one to bring it up. If you have to haggle and pressure her for discounts, then you are setting the stage for future disappointment.

It’s simple. Don’t haggle. Don’t ask for discounts. Just pay her rates.

Screening

The “I don’t want to be screened because ⎽⎽⎽⎽” excuse is something we’ve all heard before, and it’s a surefire way to get ignored and blocked. The ladies who care about their safety will require screening on your part. Each lady will have their own screening methods and requirements, but most will expect you to verify your identity in some way. Only you can make the decision about whether or not you feel comfortable giving a specific companion your information. It’s up to you to do your research on the companion you intend to see before you contact her. And when you do contact her, it should only be when you are ready to give her your screening information.

⭐️The easier you make it for her to verify you, the more likely it will be that she accepts your appointment request.

Payments & Deposits

While not every escort requires a deposit, most professional companions have a deposit requirement to finalize your date. If you know she has a deposit requirement, but you aren’t willing to give a deposit, then don’t waste her time by trying to convince her she doesn’t really need it.

❌ DO NOT show up to your date and ask her about rates. If you read her website and made the appointment, then you should already know her rates.
❌ DO NOT count out any $$$ in front of her.
❌ DO NOT hand her any $$$ for the date. It’s usually a good idea to place any fees in a visible location, like on a bathroom counter or another countertop. But it’s best to read her website to see if she has specific requirements about how she expects you to handle fees and any protocols you must follow.
❌ DO NOT wait until the end of the date to give her the fee. Go ahead and get that out of the way first without being asked or mentioning it. Just do it, don’t talk about it.

Time Management

A companion values her time just as much as you do. Being punctual is an absolute must if you want to earn her trust and respect. If your date is supposed to begin at 5pm, then show up at 5pm. Not before that time, not after that time. If you expect to be even a little late, it’s always best to contact the companion and let her know your situation. Conversely, showing up early is just as bad. So don’t show up to your appointment early unless she has given you the okay.

Another aspect of time management that companions often have to deal with is the Campers Without Compensation type of client. This is when a client books an appointment for a set amount of time and, very intentionally, tries to push that time further out to see what they can get away with. They might book a 1-hour or 2-hour date, then once that time is up, they start their camping trip. One hour turns into 90 minutes, which turns into 2 hours, etc. They have no intention of compensating you for that extra time they took—it’s intentionally done!

Most professional companions aren’t “clock watchers,” but we’re also not doormats where you can offer yourself discounts and free time at our expense. Going over our scheduled time isn’t a big deal when it’s 10, 15, or 20 minutes, and it just happens that way because of how our appointment is going. The disrespect comes from intentionally booking us for the bare minimum, then trying to take as much of our time as you can get away with. We drop subtle hints that our time is up, you ignore them. Everything can be fun and organic until you push us to a point where we have to literally kick you out because you didn’t take the hint.

I will dedicate a blog just for this topic in the future.

Hygiene & Personal Care

Hygiene is one of those things that many gentlemen take for granted and think they have under control. Unfortunately, there’s a small percentage who don’t sufficiently practice good hygiene. This includes everything from showering before a date to brushing your teeth and making sure your nails are clipped, cleaned, and filed. When we say take a shower before our date, we don’t mean to let the water hit your body and just roll off. You can walk through a lawn sprinkler and get that kind of result. In addition to water, a good shower also requires a little soap, a washcloth, and some scrubbing.

Never underestimate the appeal of good oral hygiene. If you can afford to see a companion, you can afford a toothbrush, floss, and regular dental care. It matters a lot.

When it comes to nails, make sure they are clean, cut, and filed. A professional manicure is a nice touch. Yes, men get manicures and pedicures too.

If you wear cologne, use it very sparingly.

None of us expect perfection—we aren’t perfect either. We just expect that you’ll take your hygiene as seriously as you expect us to when we meet you. Practicing good hygiene is not only a good idea, it’s a basic common courtesy and one of the best ways to make a good first impression when you meet your companion.

Respect Her Boundaries

Every companions has her own set of rules and boundaries regarding how she expects to be treated. Once she makes it clear what her boundaries are and the lines you are to never cross, it’s your responsibility to not cross those lines. Those boundaries exist whether it’s through text, email, phone, or when meeting her face-to-face.

Pestering a lady and being pushy about the things she does or doesn’t do is highly disrespectful and will certainly make her resent you. Push her too far and she’ll more than likely end your date abruptly, block you, and blacklist you. If you think you can convince her to change her rules just for you, then you are a manipulating asshole. Just Don’t Do It.

Also, pressuring her for “off-the-clock” time is a great way to tell her how much of a douche you are. If your companion feels like spending a little extra time with you, she’ll let you know. And just because she does it one time, doesn’t mean you should think of it as regular thing.

Gifts & Tips

Gifts are just that—gifts. They’re not an obligation and you are never required to give her one, but they are a really nice gesture. If you know she likes wine or champagne, then bring her a nice bottle. If know she has a specific interest, surprise her with a little token of your appreciation. When meeting a lady for the first time, giving her a gift makes a good first impression, and it’s also a great icebreaker.

Believe me, your companion is just as nervous about your date as you are. She might not show it, but she is. Anything you can do to relieve some of the anxiety of meeting someone new will help to put her mind at ease and ensure a more relaxed and fun date.

While gifts are definitely a nice touch for your first date, they are also a nice gesture for any ensuing dates.

Same as gifts, a tip is sometimes a nice token of appreciation for a companion who has to go through a lot of trouble to make the date possible. If you know she’s traveling a long distance just to see you, it might be a good idea to give her a tip.

Cancellations

Having to cancel a date happens from time to time. If you have to cancel, it’s best to let your companion know ASAP. Most ladies are understanding and will work with you if they feel you are being sincere and not trying to take advantage of them.

Having said that, you also have to understand that your companion might have put considerable time and $$$ into making your date happen. This could include hotel, flight, and other travel costs, not to mention the time she reserved for you that could have been reserved for something or someone else. How you’re expected to deal with a cancellation depends entirely on a companion’s cancellation policy–if she has one.

This brings us back to the first point in this guide, which is to Read Her Website so you know if she has a cancellation policy and what it entails. If you are giving her a week or more notice, she’ll be much more likely to work with you. If you are giving her a couple of days notice, you might want to, at a minimum, compensate her for all her travel costs. If you are giving her a notice of hours or the day/night before a date, don’t be a dick, just pay her for the date.

The bottom line here is to find out what she expects as far as compensation for a cancellation, then just do it without her having to remind you or bring it up.

Privacy

If you’ve seen other companions, then it’s never a good idea to share their personal details with your current date. You probably wouldn’t want a companion to share your personal details with another client, so you should show her the same courtesy. There’s nothing wrong with discussing past experiences, just as long as you aren’t giving out personal details.

❌ DO NOT give out a companion’s phone # for a reference unless you have contacted her first and asked her permission.
❌ DO NOT ask a companion her real name or pry too much about her personal life.

Again, this is not a complete list of how to be the ideal client, but it’s a great starting point that will put you on the right path. Please let me know what you think or if there’s something you believe would be a good general guideline to add to my list.

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